I hate that we have to overthink this stuff. Like our devices are continually sending out signals and the ping back needs to be “translated”. In real life it’s manageable, but the digital device opens us up to the world and before we know it, we’re spending a huge amount of time trying to interpret what our digital actions (and the consequences of those actions) say about us. Or maybe some of us just overthink? Exhausting 😂 Sometimes I wish I could live in a cave 😉 Thank you for the prompt - I’m reflecting on this today 🙏
Thanks Ryan. I agree. Notification culture absolutely exacerbates this. In general, digital/social platforms have led us to make ourselves more available, meaning we have to fend off more inbound stuff. I liked the piece in The Atlantic called "Not sorry for my delay" which I think get gets at this (https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/01/not-sorry-for-my-delay/621264/). Thanks for reading and your thoughtful response!
The phrase "No More Mr. Nice Guy" has been kicking around a lot longer than Alice Cooper's song. From the OED:
Mr Nice Guy n. a pleasant, amicable, benign person; originally and frequently in no more Mr Nice Guy.
1957 Look 16 Apr. 127/2 A writer did an article about him [sc. Perry Como], and called him ‘Mr. Nice Guy’, and the name stuck.
1965 Newsweek 26 July 62/1 (title) No more Mr. Nice Guy.
1974 Audubon Jan. 97/1 It is a tribute to Russell Errol Train's considerable self-restrain that he did not wince visibly when he was introduced last fall to the National Press Club as ‘Mr. Nice Guy’.
Interesting! I'm going to update the piece. In the older appearances of the phrase it seems to connote being genuinely nice to a fault.However, Dr. Glover's book appears to been the impetus for the shift of the definition to mean performative niceness as a way of manipulating others, which is generally how it's understood by internet culture today (e.g. the subreddit r/niceguys — https://www.reddit.com/r/niceguys/). Thanks Mike!
It feels good to have what is going on in my head (while managing my desire for praise and external expectations ) articulated into words , thank you for this !
I hate that we have to overthink this stuff. Like our devices are continually sending out signals and the ping back needs to be “translated”. In real life it’s manageable, but the digital device opens us up to the world and before we know it, we’re spending a huge amount of time trying to interpret what our digital actions (and the consequences of those actions) say about us. Or maybe some of us just overthink? Exhausting 😂 Sometimes I wish I could live in a cave 😉 Thank you for the prompt - I’m reflecting on this today 🙏
Thanks Ryan. I agree. Notification culture absolutely exacerbates this. In general, digital/social platforms have led us to make ourselves more available, meaning we have to fend off more inbound stuff. I liked the piece in The Atlantic called "Not sorry for my delay" which I think get gets at this (https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/01/not-sorry-for-my-delay/621264/). Thanks for reading and your thoughtful response!
The phrase "No More Mr. Nice Guy" has been kicking around a lot longer than Alice Cooper's song. From the OED:
Mr Nice Guy n. a pleasant, amicable, benign person; originally and frequently in no more Mr Nice Guy.
1957 Look 16 Apr. 127/2 A writer did an article about him [sc. Perry Como], and called him ‘Mr. Nice Guy’, and the name stuck.
1965 Newsweek 26 July 62/1 (title) No more Mr. Nice Guy.
1974 Audubon Jan. 97/1 It is a tribute to Russell Errol Train's considerable self-restrain that he did not wince visibly when he was introduced last fall to the National Press Club as ‘Mr. Nice Guy’.
Interesting! I'm going to update the piece. In the older appearances of the phrase it seems to connote being genuinely nice to a fault.However, Dr. Glover's book appears to been the impetus for the shift of the definition to mean performative niceness as a way of manipulating others, which is generally how it's understood by internet culture today (e.g. the subreddit r/niceguys — https://www.reddit.com/r/niceguys/). Thanks Mike!
This one really resonated, thanks guy. Props for continuing to work on your healthy boundaries.
Cheers Ciarán! Glad it struck a chord!
It feels good to have what is going on in my head (while managing my desire for praise and external expectations ) articulated into words , thank you for this !
Thank you Surya! ❤️